Phase 1 : A new life in the works!

As many of my friends and family can see by now, I have developed a bump! A bump which contains a little life that is currently 22 weeks old. It is definitely an amazing thing I must say since I am the one experiencing all the weirdest sensations and changes to my body! hehe...

You would think that after seeing so many pregnant women around, and hearing the equally horrifying stories, you would be kind of prepared of what was to be expected.

My first 3 mths which incidentally is called the 1st trimester, was pretty rough.Unluckily, I was not one of those lucky ladies who breeze through pregnancy without a hitch. I had all the works! Morning/Evening sickness, dizziness, fatigue , vomitting and all the weird ass symptoms you read in books...phew! It was amazing how a person can still stay sane after going through all these!!

Of course, I was still in Perth when I started off with all these symptoms so it was extremely tough on my hubby. Thank God it was winter in Perth so the weather was cool enough for me (preggers have very high body temp!) and I stayed in a peaceful place so it was very comfortable for me. Having to "tahan" my vomitting bouts was enough to turn me off food and it was difficult to find food that suited me. All the thoughts of ingesting nutritious food and all for the growing foetus was not even in my priorities!! Instead I ate biscuits, cereal, potato chips, chocolates and fruits ...all other food (especially after I cook them) just made me wanna puke..*grimace*. My hubby tried to cook but he had to air the kitchen or eating area before I could eat..I suddenly developed this extremely keen sense of smell where any food/cooking smell made me puky ..sheesh...It was unbelievable to me at that time that a person can feel that way...and I can imagine how frustrating the people around me must feel!!!!

I kept reading that the symptoms of the 1st trimester would disappear by 2nd trimester so that gave me hope that it would all pass sooon! I then came back Singapore so that I could have the proper checks from my gynae here. It was still my first trimester...and though it was just 12 weeks..I was literally counting down the days. I was still sick in Singapore and the humid weather and city noise made it worse. It did not help that I was alone as my hubby as still in Perth.

I was really glad I had a great family and a great friend(who was also pregnant)'s support as I was too sick to even cook or walk downstairs to buy my own food. At that point, I found it incredible that women actually wanted babies and some even had more than 1!! Why does one have to suffer through all these mental and physical discomfort for 9mths? As I was eating some medication to stabilise my pregnancy, I was literally feeling "pissed off" and in a PMS mood every day due to the medication. Gosh... I can imagine what a pain in the ass I must have been to everyone around me. I felt so bad especially since my siblings tried their best to accompany me and got their heads bitten off by me! And for no apparent reason, I would start crying uncontrollably!!! hehe.... I scared my dad who walked into my room once and saw me crying like there was no tomorrow! He must be thinking when he would need to admit me to a mental institute...*hyuk hyuk*

Special Delivery all the way from Perth from my hubby to cheer me up!!

At that point I was confined to bed (doctor's orders) since my pregnancy was unstable and did not contact any of my friends. It was tough for me as I was a very energetic person who walked a lot and did lotsa stuff. When the 1st trimester was finally over (at 12 weeks), I magically woke up from this "bad" mood that was eating at me. I guess stopping my medication helped a lot too. Yahoo!!!!! I started feeling like a "normal" person again, but with a bigger tummy and decided it was time to tell the world that I was back in Singapore!!!

Revival!!!

I am back! Yup back in good ol' humid Singapore, back to my family and friends, back to yummy food and back to blogging!

I was bugged by many on why I suddenly stoppped blogging.....reason is....No Reason! hehe...Suddenly I have no more inspiration to "gossip" or say anything. That's of course not to say that my life is suddenly THAT boring...hehehe....far from it!

I realise that I tend to blog a lot when I am overseas ...which was the main reason why I set up my blog and spent so much time taking photos(irritating the hell out of those who were dining with me!heh) and allowing my family and friends to find out what I was up to. You would expect my blog and pictures would explain what I had been up to...YET I realise that many people always ask me with this peculiar expression , "WHAT exactly do you do in Perth everyday?". .and they really want to know a day by day account (i am not joking!). I know the reason for the "popular" question is becos Perth is well known to be a slow slow place with nothing to do. Also being there with my husband( who is working) and I am not working....so people really want to know how I could spend my few months there without dying of boredom.

On the other hand, I spent an even longer time staying in Ho Chi Minh City, being even more bored and ended up watching a lot of TV just becos it was a working stint....yet everyone seems to think it is so exciting to be there.. haha...

From both overseas experience, I deduce that most people feel that life is so much more exciting when one is working and not when one is taking time off to enjoy life...I mean it is considered one of the deadly sins in Singapore if you are deemed to quit your job to take a break!! haha...

Having such a peculiar shift in my lifestyle one year back into what all my friends call a "tai tai" lifestyle (they are too polite to call me an unemployed useless bum!) , I personally feel that breaking away from the norm of the typical executive lifestyle in Singapore is something one should attempt to do once in your life just maintain your sanity and mental health. I know of friends who toil in job after job, with no breaks in between, complaining of "no life"and "bad health", sacrificing precious family and friends to wrk late and weekends....just to chase the "lifestyle" deemed acceptable by the society. Comments such as" how can you quit a job just like that? You mean you quit your job WITHOUT another job? What abt your house, your family?You are married you know! You very rich ah, husband support you is it?". These "reality check" comments from kind souls are enough to scare one into sticking on with a shitty job. I mean, who DARES to take a break from work?

I definitely know and have experienced all these comments which kinda irritated me at the start since SO MANY people kept repeating the same thing to me for doing something so unorthodox but ultimately I am responsible for my own life and did not have to explain to anyone what I wanted to do (except my hubby of course!) .

To me, it could be the fact that I was approaching the big ol 30 and realised that I have not much time to do what I want since I would need to be a "responsible and stable daughter, wife and mother". These are the times when I look toward my swinging single "executive" friends who can afford to "go out for weekly drinks at the latest clubs" or "go for the latest Gucci sale" with envy. I guess starting a family and owning a home forces one to "grow up" and you will naturally restrict your carefree ways. So I gather, what better time to work and stay overseas, especially when my husband also decided on a career change that will base him overseas? It was fortunate for me that my hubby shared the same thoughts as me (he knows me best!) and he also supported my decision to do something different since we did not have too many financial/family burdens at that moment. We then planned our overseas transition quite smoothly and managed our relationship while being in different countries for the past year pretty well. If I look back now at both our plans, I would say this definitely had been the experience of our lives and despite all the tough adjustments and luggage packing, I would not trade it for anythg else (well, unless its a Gucci bag!).

Of course, to end off my "globe trotting" experience, I am currently expecting a baby! Now you know why I am back in Singapore!! *grin*